How to be a Blogger

September 30, 2010

How to be a Blogger
By Jacob Malewitz, eHow Contributor

Things You’ll Need:
Email address
Ability to register blog

Plan First
You will need to plan the basics of this blog. You can just start it with one post and build from there. However, going in with a plan can help. For instance, to prepare yourself for blogging on a consistent basis you can study other successful blogs. Then you need to start asking some questions. Can you make money blogging? Can you spend many hours every week writing, promoting, and publishing?

Pick Your Topic
You will need to make this blog interesting. But, in actuality, to be a blogger all you really need is the determination to write what you want. That is the beauty of the blogging world: Your opinion counts. Find some of the more popular blogs with themes you like and then consider if you can do similar things in your own way.

Choose a Blog Hosting Service
There many sites that will make it easy to create and maintain your blog. The best, in my experience, is Blogspot. This service is free, provides templates, and allows you the freedom to not only write but make money doing it. You can even easily add Google Adsense to a Blogspot blog.

Publishing Frequently
Some writers begin blogs and post on them once or twice a month. That’s fine; you can be a blogger this way. But if you want to be a serious blogger, and if you want to make money, you will need to post often.

Watch Your Readers Come In
In the end, you will be the reason the blog succeeds or fails. Sometimes a failed blog is just a learning experience. Yet you can succeed in the blogging world by defining success in your own way. Maybe you are just doing it to find some readers for the book you wrote, or maybe you just really care about the issue you blog about. You will publish— and you will be read by someone.

Spending Money You Don’t Have

by Louis Herrey

This is my answer to government policy that claim we need to spend more and more money to boost our national economy, even though it means joining the crowd of bankrupt millions who are treading water just to stay alive. It’s a quote by Will Smith.

“Too many people are spending money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.”

For a lack of a better word, I would say that this is one of the great evils of modern society, that we feel more or less forced to spend money we don’t even have. Every day companies and advertisers play the game of lets-see-who-we-can-trick-today. And we fall for it. My “favorite” one is: “Get your flat screen today, pay for it next year!” Not to mention the offers that fall into our mailbox at least once a week to get this or that credit card or bank loan, and everything is practically given away for nothing.

Wow, we think to ourselves, what a deal! So well are we tricked – although it should be easy to see the deception – that we are shocked when the bill finally comes, and we have to pay a price we cannot afford – unless, of course, we could take another loan to pay for the loan we couldn’t afford to pay back in the first place. Isn’t it wonderful? The bank will gladly help us out of a tricky situation. And should they fail to comply, then just turn to the loyal friend who always stays near your heart (in your breast pocket): your credit card. He is so generous; he’ll let you buy whatever you please, and you’ll never have to pay for it. Until later.

Can the politicians and financial lobbyists really be correct: that in order to save our collective economy we must put ourselves in personal bankruptcy?

How to Deal With Cyber Bullying
So what should you do to deal with cyber bullying?
How do you stop cyber bullying?

First, Do Not Respond to the Cyber Bully’s Attacks
The first step is to stop responding to the cyber bully. Do not reply to emails, posts, IM’s or text messages. This is what the bully wants. They want you to engage with them. They want to manipulate you into responding.

If you respond in any way that is emotional or lets them know that they are getting to you and are able to make you upset it only encourages the cyber bully.

Remember, bullies often suffer from low self-esteem and they want to feel better about themselves. Instead of doing something positive or succeeding at something or making a new friend a bully has learned to make themselves feel better by controlling, abusing and tearing down others. This gives them a sense of control and power they don’t have in their lives. Most bullies are actually quite weak and the same is true of cyber bullies.

If you respond in a way that lets the bully know that you are angry, upset or afraid they will only be happy because they have managed to control your emotional state. Even if you do feel like that don’t give the cyber bully the satisfaction and encouragement by letting them know.

It is especially important to not respond emotionally because this could make you send a reply that you might regret later. Messages sent on the internet are almost impossible to take back. If you lash back in anger you could find yourself the one who is being accused of being a cyber bully and the tables could be turned against you.

Bullies are hoping to get you upset so you slip up and make a mistake. Don’t send flames and don’t get into flame wars. (Flames are nasty, sometimes threatening emails.)

Don’t Delete Information Related to the Cyber Bullying
While you should not respond to the cyber bully online (or offline) you should also not delete their messages. That’s right, do NOT delete their messages.

Cyber bullies are especially cowardly and like to hide behind the anonymity that the internet gives them. Or does it? Messages sent on the internet are traceable. Make sure to keep all messages as the police will be able to use this information to track down the culprit. Do not delete any messages and save as much information you can about chats, IM’s, text messages, blog posts, websites, etc.

This will also help show just how often the cyber bullying takes place, at what times and even from which location. Every computer, server and device connected over the (TCP/IP) network has a unique IP (Internet Protocol) address. Police along with the cyber bully’s ISP (Internet Service Provider) can use this information to trace the bully right to his or her house.

Report the Cyber Bulling to ISP, Police and Schools
You need to let appropriate authorities know about the cyber bullying or they cannot take corrective action. Cyberbullying is not something you want to ignore. It is your responsibility to report this behavior so the perpetrators can be dealt with.

This helps to not only protect your child but to intervene before the cyber bully harms even more kids. Bullies often behave in a serial fashion attacking multiple victims either at the same time or one after another. Once the high of abusing one victim is over they move to their next prey.

Report cyber bullying to your internet, instant messaging or mobile phone provider.

While some providers may not take swift action it is still important to establish that incidents of cyberbullying are taking place and that it has been recorded as a complaint. This will provide greater impetus for them to take cyberbullying more seriously if further reports are made or others complain about the same person.

Report cyber bullying to the local police.

Let the police know what is happening. Depending on the actions taken by the cyber bully they may have crossed the line. Laws regarding bullying and cyber bullying are finally being passed.

While bullies may have had a free ride up until now they are more and more running into the long arm of the law. Cyber bullying needs to be brought to the attention of the police. Be sure to provide them with as much information as you can. They can then contact the cyber bully’s ISP and track them down.

Inform Your Child’s School if Cyber Bully is a Student

While the school administration may say they have no legal obligation as the bullying is taking place outside of school hours and off school property many schools are adopting code of conduct type contracts with their students and parents.

This allows for schools to take action in such cases where the bullying still impacts on another student while they are at school. Targets of cyberbullying are traumatized and often lose focus on their schoolwork as a direct result of the harassment.

Even if your child’s school does not have such a policy they still need to be made aware of the abuse so they can be alerted to potential further bullying that may be taking place while your child is at school.


September 13, 2010


Toilet Etiquette – Office/Workplace and Public toilets

Most of the rules of toilet etiquette that follow aim to achieve the above:

Do not take reading material into the office toilet

Don’t peek under the doors. Knock if the stall (cubicle) appears to be occupied

Lock the cubicle (stall) door when you enter. You may embarrass someone

Guys; choose a spot at the urinal farthest from anyone already there or at one end if you are the first

Stand close enough to the pan or urinal so you don’t dribble on the floor

Concentrate when you pee so you don’t wet the seat, walls or floor

Sit on the pan if you are unsteady on your feet.

Girls; sitting is compulsory (smile).

Squat only on squatting toilets, pedestal toilets are for sitting on only

Avoid messing the toilet seat. If you do, clean up after yourself – properly

Remember to flush the toilet after use

The toilet brush is for cleaning the inside of the toilet bowl after you have used the toilet

Check whether you need to use it

Don’t leave it for someone else to clean up after you

Flush it again

Ladies’ handbags pick up lots of germs if taken into the toilet and placed on the toilet floor or handled by germ laden hands

Please, never place them on dining tables or kitchen bench tops if they have been taken to the toilet

Girls’ sanitary napkins should not be flushed down the toilet but be wrapped and disposed of in the sanitary pad disposal unit

Don’t graffiti the toilet; it devalues your name and talent?

Leave the stall door ajar when you leave – to indicate that it is unoccupied

Wash your hands thoroughly after your business – whatever it is
Authorities would you please post prominent signs saying – “ALWAYS wash your hands before leaving the toilet”

Don’t litter the place

Don’t dawdle in the toilet especially in the toilet stalls

On your way out, for personal hygiene, use a paper towel to grip the door handle if possible – (because we will never train everyone to wash their hands) or elbow through when somebody opens it from outside

Public toilets without external doors are to be preferred for this reason; though there are not enough of them around

Office Kitchen Etiquette

September 13, 2010

Office Kitchen Etiquette

Office Etiquette extends to the Office Kitchen which may be cleaned only once a day. If so, clean up after yourself so that the office kitchen remains clean, tidy and hygienic for those using the facilities after you

If we do not clean up our own mess we will collectively add to the mess and attract cockroaches and mice to crawl over the cutlery and crockery in the dead of night

Who knows what unspeakable bug we may pick up as a consequence
Following is a list of rules pertaining to office kitchen etiquette that should cover most office kitchens quite nicely.

1. Probably the most widely abused and ignored rule of office kitchen etiquette is to make a new pot of coffee if you are emptying or near to emptying the pot. You wouldn’t like it if you went into the office kitchen and some inconsiderate worker before you helped himself to a large cup of coffee, leaving behind only a minute amount of liquid for you to stare at and steam over. Don’t know how to make a new pot of coffee? Learn. Ask someone. It isn’t rocket science. And it will get you away from your desk for at least another minute or two.

2. Clean up after yourself, another rule of office kitchen etiquette that seems to be a foreign concept to many. Just because the company has a cleaning person does not mean you have your own personal maid or janitor. Other people need to eat in that kitchen or prepare their lunch and snacks in a relatively clean environment, and leaving behind a mess of grease, crumbs, spilled juice, and crumpled fast food wrappers will not win you any awards, but rather the title of office a$$. It’s simple; trash goes in the trash can. Look around the kitchen, you might find one. It’s the big container thing with a trash bag in it.

3. As an addendum to the trash rule, be sure to throw out any of your old leftovers that have been residing in the fridge for some time, lest everyone soon be greeted with an unpleasant odor every time they go to retrieve their own lunch and snacks. No one is going to dispose of your festering leftovers for you. Just because they’ve been shoved to the back of the fridge does not mean they are gone and forgotten. The smell will certainly make sure they aren’t forgotten. Not going to eat it? Toss it out, and save the office kitchen from an eventual quarantine.

4. Office workers are very protective of their lunch. They don’t like to see it mashed, mangled, pushed around or treated disgracefully as a result of another worker’s general lack of office kitchen etiquette. Please be kind to your coworker’s lunch when placing your own in the fridge. If the fridge is crowded, then instead of shoving aside everyone else’s food, try putting some of your great organizational skills to use and gently rearrange some things, chances are you’ll find some room and everyone’s lunch will still be able to share space in relative harmony. And if not, then it may be time to revisit rule number 3.

5. In many office kitchens, extra supplies are often kept within the cabinets, such as extra plastic utensils or paper towels, If you use up any of these, then the proper thing to do is to replace them. It’s easy. Extend your arm, wrap your fingers around the cabinet door, retract your arm until the door opens, and peruse the cornucopia of kitchen supplies. Select the item that needs to be replaced, and proceed to do so. Congratulate yourself on a job well done and for being a team player.

6. If the garbage is full, don’t just place things on top of it, in effect building a tower of dirty, smelly refuse. If your company has a cleaning person, then alert him that garbage needs emptying or, “gasp”, empty it yourself. Even if you are a manager, emptying the trash is not beneath you. As an employee of the company, and especially if you are a manager, it is your duty to contribute to the efficiency of the company, and emptying a full trash can ensures that operations can continue to run smoothly, at least in the kitchen.

The following are additional rules of office kitchen etiquette that may or may not apply to your own office kitchen.

Replace water in the water filter pitcher if you empty it or come close to emptying it. You know who you are.

Clean out the toaster or microwave if you make a mess in it. Spattered butter or sauce. Melted cheese. Burnt pieces of toast that continue to smoke and smolder every time the toaster is used.. You know who you are.

Don’t make a pot of decaffeinated coffee in the regular pot without telling anyone. You know who you are.

Don’t use up all the milk without telling anyone. You know who you are. Most offices have someone in charge of purchasing or replacing the community milk, but they need to be told before its all gone.

Don’t have cell phone conversations in the office kitchen. You know who you are. Other workers are trying to use their paltry lunch breaks as a means to escape from the work day and perhaps relax for a short while, and having to contend with someone rudely chatting away on their cell phone is not conducive to a relaxing environment.

Tony Robbins 10 Lessons

September 8, 2010

Tony Robbins 10 Lessons

Tony Robbins has been an inspiration for millions. Here are 10 lessons from Tony Robbins:
1) By altering your body’s physiology, you can achieve an immediate change of your emotional state. The mind will follow whatever state your phsyical body is in and not vice-versa.

2) Ask specific questions of yourself (in your self-talk) to direct and control your attention to the various aspects of the human experience. The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of the questions you ask of yourself.

3) Get leverage to create personal change by associating an old behavior with massive pain and the desired new behavior with massive pleasure. Tony is a big believer in the pain/pleasure principles of life and this applies in business as well.

4) When you get stuck, interupt your limiting pattern by doing something totally unexpected.

5) You can condition your behavior by visualizing it over and over again. This is not exactly unique to Tony Robbins, but he does reinforce this message in all of his products.

6) Goal-setting strategy: Know your end outcome; Take massive intelligent action; Have sensory-acuity to notice if you are getting the results you desire and if not; change your approach; and change *until* you get your end outcome.

7) Create a “Compelling future” by vividly imagining your end result to generate enthusiasm and power within yourself. The past does not equal the future. Find beliefs that support your goals and desires.

8) Youth is Power! This is one of Tony’s beliefs. Even if you don’t have fancy degrees, your youth can still mean power, flexibility and opportunity for your life.

9) Principles of CANI! CANI stands for Constant And Never-ending Improvement. It’s a basic tenet of Tony Robbins.

10) NLP can be useful. NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming and there are many NLP undertones in Tony’s basic tenets. He went on to morph NLP into his own technology called “NAC” (Neuro Associative Conditioning).

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