Workplace Bullying

December 5, 2011

Workplace Bullying
http://www.mystupidboss.com/msb/WorkplaceBullying.aspx

Bullying doesn’t just happen to kids at school; it is a very real problem in the workplace as well. Millions of days are lost to businesses each year as a result of absenteeism caused by bullying. Bullying results in low morale, lower productivity and high staff turnover. Surveys suggest bullying is responsible for 30 – 50% of all stress related illnesses in the workplace.

Have you ever been bullied by your boss? Have you witnessed a co-worker being bullied by a supervisor? A recent study by the U.S. National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health suggests that most incidents of workplace bullying are between employees, rather than perpetuated by a supervisor. Frankly, we find that very difficult to believe. Can it be true that most workplace bullying is by co-workers?

We believe a survey recently publish by the British Trade Union Congress on workplace bullying is highly significant. According to the survey, 2 million workers claim to have been bullied in the six months leading up to November 2005. What is particularly striking about this British evidence for workplace bullying is that it is senior managers, rather than co-workers, who are singled out as the worst offenders when it comes to acts of workplace bullying.

We think bullying by bosses is stupid because it is counterproductive. It is estimated that 18 million working days per year are lost through the effects of workplace bullying in the UK alone.

Are bullying bosses just a British phenomenon? Use the Submit a Story page to tell us what you think.

What is Bullying at Work?

Bullying at work is basically any behaviour that is malicious, intimidating, insulting or upsetting. It is a deliberate attempt by a colleague or boss to undermine, intimidate or control you. Bullying tends to be sustained over a long period rather than being a one off occurrence. Bullies rarely commit a physical attack but instead use more psychological tactics. The emotional problems that the victim experiences can be very hard to deal with. Any of the following can be regarded as bullying behaviour:

Verbal/physical threats
Being humiliated in public or shouted at
Blocking access to training/overtime and other benefits
Spreading malicious rumours
Persistent criticism that is undeserved
Setting impossible deadlines – setting you up to fail
Offensive reference to sex, race, age, etc
Exclusion from meetings or communications that are relevant to your job
A bully may be quite subtle when talking to you in front of other people, but when you are on your own with them, you may be subject to explosive outbursts.

Bullies will quite often try to wear you down by placing unreasonable demands on you. They may accuse your standard of work or accuse you of not pulling your weight.

What can you do about it?

Admit that you are being bullied
The first step you need to take is to acknowledge the fact you are being bullied. If you just try to ignore it, the problem will not go away.

Stand up for yourself
Try not to show the bully that their behaviour has upset you. Try to improve your assertiveness and communication skills. Look at your body language, don’t stoop or hang your head. Stand up straight with confidence and maintain eye contact. If you stand up to the bully rather than just take it lying down, chances are the bully may lose interest and turn their attentions elsewhere. Bullies prey on people that accept their bad behaviour. Don’t give them an easy ride – simply choose not accept the way they treat you. If they speak to you abusively, stand up to them and ask why they are treating you so badly. Tell them how their behaviour is affecting you. If they know that they are always going to have to account for their behaviour, your direct approach will potentially reduce the chances of them bullying you in the future.

Make a case
Gather information about this person. Is it just you they are targeting or are they bullying anyone else? Build a case to show the negative impact they are having on the workplace.

Keep a diary of bullying tactics. Make sure you include specific incidences and record exactly what was said. Specifics are much more useful than vague recollections.

Tell someone
Write a memo to the person concerned stating your criticism of the way you are being treated. Make sure you copy in your Human Resources manager. If you are called into a meeting, request that a colleague or friend comes in with you.

Request that your Human Resources department spell out clearly their policy on bullying.

What if the company does nothing?

Talk to friends
Talk to your friends and supportive colleagues. Don’t try to deal with the problems on your own.

Don’t be embarrassed to seek professional help
If you have been badly affected as a result of bullying, seek professional help. Your family doctor can refer you to counsellors and psychologists. Bullying causes stress, which can, over a sustained period of time have very harmful effects on your body. Symptoms of prolonged stress include tiredness/feeling run down, difficulty sleeping, headaches, heartburn, stomach ulcers, high blood pressure and heart disease.

Know when it’s time to move on
You need to ask yourself whether it is worth the stress of staying on. Some bullies will not back down and will continue to make your life hell. Is your job really worth it? If it is just the individual that is the problem, then the problem may be worth tackling, but in some cases the organisation may have a ‘bullying culture’. Why would you want to continue to work in an organisation that supports bullying?

Take some time out and make a list of what you are good at. Document your achievements and update your CV. Take this opportunity to push your career in a more fulfilling direction. Your health and sanity are much more important.

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April 2011 Gatherings by Camelia

“Came” means Business Networking (referral business/business gathering)

welcome to Camelia gatherings

Came 339
1 April 2011 (friday)
Time: 6pm to 8pm
Venue: pappa RICH,PJ Newtown, Jalan 8,Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia. (near Menara MBPJ)

Came 340
3 April 2011 (sunday)
Time: 3pm to 5pm
Venue: Starbuck,Menara Weld, Jalan Raja Chulan,Kuala Lumpur,Malaysia.

Came 341
3 April 2011 (sunday)
Time: 7pm to 9pm
Venue: Station 1 cafe, Uptown damansara, Damansara Utama, Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia.

Came 342
8 April 2011 (Friday)
Time: 7pm to 9pm
Venue: Coffee Bean, The Midvalley Mega Mall,Kuala Lumpur,Malaysia (near MPH/Secret Recipe)

Came 343
9 April 2011 (Saturday)
Time: 3pm to 5pm
Venue: Burger King,Masjid Jamek,Kuala Lumpur,Malaysia (near LRT/STAR)

Came 344
9 April 2011 (Saturday)
Time: 7pm to 9pm
Venue: Old Town White Coffee,Jaya ONE,Jalan University,Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia (near MPH/Secret Recipe)

Came 345
18 April 2011 (Monday)
Time: 3pm to 5pm
Venue:Old Town White Coffee, Pavilion Mall,Jalan Bukit Bintang,Kuala Lumpur,Malaysia

Came 346
19 April 2011 (Tuesday)
Time: 2pm to 4pm
Venue: Nyonya Colors,The Midvalley Mega Mall,Kuala Lumpur,Malaysia

Came 347
19 April 2011 (Tuesday)
Time: 6pm to 8pm
Venue: Mc Donald,One Utama Shopping Mall,Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia

Came 348
19 April 2011 (Tuesday)
Time: 8pm to 10pm
Venue: Mc Donald,One Utama Shopping Mall,Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia

Came 349
20 April 2011 (Wednesday)
Time: 3pm to 5pm
Venue: Teh Tarik Place, Empire Gallery Mall,SS16,Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia.

Came 350
20 April 2011 (Wednesday)
Time: 6pm to 8pm
Venue: Uncle lim, Subang Parade Shopping Mall,SS16,Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia. (next to CarreFour Subang)

Came 351
20 April 2011 (Wednesday)
Time: 8pm to 10pm
Venue: Uncle lim, Subang Parade Shopping Mall,SS16,Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia. (next to CarreFour Subang)

Came 352
23 April 2011 (Friday)
Time: 6pm to 8pm
Venue: Old Town White Coffee, Tmn Midah,Cheras,Kuala Lumpur,Malaysia (opposite Taman Midah)

Came 353
24 April 2011 (Saturday)
Time: 3pm to 5pm
Venue: Aseana Kafe & Bar,Suria KLCC Mall,KLCC,Kuala Lumpur,Malaysia.

Came 354
24 April 2011 (Saturday)
Time: 7pm to 9pm
Venue: Old Town White Coffee,ssTwo Mall, ss2,Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia.

Came 355
28 April 2011 (Thursday)
Time: 6pm to 8pm
Venue: Pappa Rich,Uptown Damansara,Damansara Utama,Jalan ss21,Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia.

Came 355
28 April 2011 (Thursday)
Time: 8pm to 10pm
Venue: Pappa Rich,Uptown Damansara,Damansara Utama,Jalan ss21,Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia.

Came 356
29 April 2011 (Friday)
Time: 6pm to 8pm
Venue: Station 1 cafe, Sunway Metro, PJS,Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia.(near Sunway Pryramid Mall/KFC outlet)

Came 356
29 April 2011 (Friday)
Time: 8pm to 10pm
Venue: Station 1 cafe, Sunway Metro, PJS,Petaling Jaya,Selangor,Malaysia.(near Sunway Pryramid Mall/KFC outlet)

Pls Call /SMS to confirm the date/place/time.

Please give me time to reserve a seat for you.

Do not be LAST MINUTE.I will not entertain you.

You may bring your friends or bosses or spouse.

PLEASE BE PUNCTUAL, Thank you!!

Mobile : 6-016-9795515
Love Camelia
Malaysian Chinese lady

*Venue and time subject to change
*Please pay your drinks / meals
*No entrance fee and no membership

Corporate Lessons

February 28, 2011

Corporate lessons

by Rahul

 Mon Aug 14, 2006

CORPORATE LESSON #1:

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A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower when the doorbell rings. After a few seconds of arguing over which one should go and answer the doorbell, The wife gives up, quickly wraps herself up in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, The next door neighbor.

Before she says a word, Bob says, “I’ll give you $800 Just to Drop that towel that you have on”. After thinking for a moment, the woman drops her towel and stands n*ked in front of Bob.

Bob has a close look at her for a few seconds, hands over $800 and quietly leaves.

Confused, but excited about her good fortune, the woman wraps back up in the towel and goes upstairs. When she gets back to the bathroom, her husband asks from the shower “Who was that?”

“It was Bob the next door neighbor,” she replies.

“Great,” the husband says, “did he say anything about the $800 he owes me?”

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MORAL OF THE STORY:

Share critical credit information with your Stakeholders to Prevent Avoidable exposure!

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CORPORATE LESSON # 2

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A priest was driving along and saw a nun on the side of the road, he stopped and offered her a lift which she gladly accepted. She got in and crossed her legs, forcing her gown to open and reveal a lovely leg.

The priest had a look and nearly had an accident. After controlling the car, he stealthily slid his hand up her leg. The Nun looked at him and immediately said, “Father, remember psalm 129?”

The priest was flustered and apologized profusely. He forced himself to remove his hand. However, he was unable to remove his eyes from her leg.

Further on, while changing gear, he let his hand slide up her leg again. The nun once again said, “Father, remember Psalm 129?”

Once again the priest apologized. “Sorry sister, but the mind is weak.”

Arriving at the convent, the nun got out, gave him a meaningful glance and went on her way. On his arrival at the Church, the Priest rushed to retrieve a bible and looked up psalm 129.

It Said, “Go forth and seek; further up, you will find Glory.”

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MORAL OF THE STORY:

Always be well informed in your job; or, you might Miss great Opportunities!

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CORPORATE LESSON # 3

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There were these 4 guys, a Russian, a German, an American and a French, who found this small genie bottle. When they Rubbed the Bottle, a genie appears.

Thankful that the 4 guys had Released him Out of the bottle, he said, “Next to you all are 4 Swimming pools,

I will give each of you a wish. When you run towards the pool and Jump, you shout What you want the pool of water to become, then your wish will come true.”

The French wanted to start. He ran towards the pool, jumped and shouted WINE”. The pool immediately changed into a Pool of wine.

The Frenchman was so happy swimming and drinking from the pool.

Next is the Russian’s turn, he did the same and shouted, “VODKA” and immersed himself into a pool of vodka.

The German was next and he jumped and shouted, “BEER”. He was so contented with his beer pool.

The last is the American. He was running towards the Pool when Suddenly he steps on a banana peel. He slipped towards The pool
And shouted, “CRAP !!!!!!!………”

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MORAL OF THE STORY:

Mind your language, you never Know what it will land you in.

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CORPORATE LESSON # 4

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A young executive was leaving the office at 6 PM when he found the CEO standing in front of a paper shredder with a piece of paper in his hand.

“Listen,” said the CEO, “this is a very sensitive and important document and my secretary has left. Can you make this thing Work?”

“Certainly, Sir” said the young executive. He turned the machine on, inserted the paper, and pressed the start button.

“Excellent, excellent!” said the CEO as his paper disappeared inside the machine.”I just need one copy.”

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MORAL OF THE STORY:

Never, ever assume that your BOSS knows everything.

http://www.fropki.com/corporate-lessons-vt2873.html

Employee: Excuse me sir, may I talk to you?

Boss: Sure, come on in. What can I do for you?

Employee: Well sir, as you know, I have been an employee of this prestigious firm for over ten years.

Boss: Yes.

Employee: I won’t beat around the bush. Sir, I would like a raise. I currently have four companies after me and so I decided to talk to you first.

Boss: A raise? I would love to give you a raise, but this is just not the right time.

Employee: I understand your position, and I know that the current economic down turn has had a negative impact on sales, but you must also take into consideration my hard work, pro- activeness and loyalty to this company for over a decade.

Boss: Taking into account these factors, and considering I don’t want to start a brain drain, I’m willing to offer you a ten percent raise and an extra five days of vacation time. How does that sound?

Employee: Great! It’s a deal! Thank you, sir!

Boss: Before you go, just out of curiosity, what companies were after you?

Employee: Oh, the Electric Company, Gas Company, Water Company and the Mortgage Company! LOL

Dear Boss:
I’m resigning effective immediately! The reason for my resignation is that I cleaned my aunt’s garage this morning before coming to work and realized I don’t feel like working anymore.

See for yourself!!