Relationship Mistakes

March 1, 2012

No.10 Don’t Expect Her To Change

Don’t expect them to change. People change because they want to, not because you want them to.


No.9 Find Someone Who Shares Your Interests

Here’s the straight scoop. There is a woman who will love playing video games with you. There is a woman who loves sports. Hell, there is a woman who loves polka, if that’s what you’re into. Don’t get stuck in the trap of believing “what girls are like” and accepting someone who doesn’t mesh with you based on this foolish common “knowledge.”

If you don’t want to be forced to watch Sex and the City, find a woman who’s not interested in Sex and the City, or one who is but who respects that you aren’t. Don’t want to go shopping? Tell your woman or find one who doesn’t want to drag you along. Many of the problems I hear guys complaining about could be easily fixed by finding someone who actually shares their interests instead of the first hot body that catches their eye, or by putting their foot down at the beginning of the relationship. Don’t pretend you like things you don’t, don’t go out of your way to pretend you’re someone you’re not; just be you and find someone who enjoys what you do.

I think this is the secret to happiness in relationships.

No.8 Don’t Make Assumptions

The biggest relationship mistake I see young men make is thinking that “women are this way” from all the stupid “forever alone,” “Hey, aren’t girls crazy?” and “Hey, listen to this story about my crazy girlfriend” stories that float around.

No.7 Try To See Things From Her Point Of View

I would have to add empathy to that list. Being able to place yourself in your partner’s shoes and see things from their perspective is very important when diffusing fights or disagreements. The challenge is to get your partner to also do this on a regular basis.

No.6 Make Sure You’re On The Same Page

Furthermore, be careful for “feelings inequity” (she likes you more than you like her, or vice versa). Not sure if this is a problem, but most relationships go badly because of this. I’m not sure if there’s even anything you can do about it, just something to watch out for.

No.5 Learn To Compromise

The biggest breakdown in communication is when both parties expect different things. You can’t expect to have the same feelings on every issue, but you should be able to find an equitable meeting place. If one party keeps having to compromise but the other doesn’t, it can get bitter quickly.

No.4 Tell Her How You Feel

Tell her about it. F*ck being clingy. If you feel something, really feel it. Say it. If she doesn’t feel the same way, you’ll lose this one girl, but if she does and you wait too long, you could regret it forever.

No.3 Always Resolve Issues

Always resolve issues; don’t leave things you care about unresolved. If you care about something don’t say “That’s OK” when she gives you a half-assed excuse. If it actually isn’t OK that she still sees her ex every Friday night, tell her. It will eat at you if you don’t.

No.2 Don’t Get Personal

When you argue, don’t get personal. Respect her. Don’t say things that will hurt her feelings and expect she does the same. Your loved ones can cut you the deepest, but they never should.

No.1 Make Sure To Communicate

Lack of communication. Make sure you talk sensibly about the things that bother you and, in turn, when she does the same, don’t make judgments too fast; think about how you respond.
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Sabine Clappaert, MD, Muse Communication

Marketing needs the woman’s touch…and why it makes good business sense
Sabine Clappaert, MD, Muse Communication

Last year was the year in which marketing-to-women came to Europe. A greater number of articles appeared on the influence of women in the economy in newspapers, industry magazines and on marketing websites.

Bold titles heralding the fact that women control the finances in most families, that they buy the majority of almost everything including fashion, groceries, beauty, healthcare, DIY and consumer electronics, plus half of computers and cars and one third of power tools, seemed to be appearing everywhere. Phrases such as “contextual web thinking” and “holistic approach” were discussed at many marketing seminars and in the business section of many reputable newspapers. The untapped opportunity (and associated sales revenue) presented by women consumers was HOT news.

During an interview, a Belgian journalist asked me a very interesting question that approached the topic from a strategic business perspective.

“Do you think we need more female marketers?” she asked. “Yes!” I replied. Then she asked, “Why?” which was the difficult part of the question.


“When we overlay men’s more linear, compartmentalized approach to marketing with the female consumers’ complex, non-linear, web-based thinking (and consuming) patterns, things don’t quite match up, do they?”


Why indeed! This leads me to the heart of this article, to explain why industry needs more women to think about and plan and execute its marketing.

Women marketers approach marketing differently. Men tend to think in linear, hierarchical terms. They want the facts, the numbers and the statistics. And the same goes for male marketers. Women (and women marketers), on the other hand, tend to approach topics more contextually, interconnecting knowledge, experiences, facts, opinions, relationships, goals and dreams in a non-linear, web-like manner.

When we overlay men’s more linear, compartmentalized approach to marketing with the female consumers’ complex, non-linear, web-based thinking (and consuming) patterns, things don’t quite match up, do they?

Now, I am in no way saying that products for women can only be promoted by women. What I am saying is that a product for women marketed only by men is going to be lacking in something. As in business, the exclusion of either gender in the marketing process is never a good idea.

To market a product well to either gender, women need to be included in the process. Women marketers, by the sheer fact that they are, well…women, will approach marketing a little differently than men do. They will tend to approach it the way they approach life: in a holistically, interconnected “everything matters” kind of way.

That does not mean women don’t crunch numbers too. Women marketers do demand statistics, facts and numbers just as much as their male counterparts. But they don’t use the number-crunched outcomes as an all defining influence on their marketing approach. Women marketers will often pay attention to their gut feeling, or react to something that is not reflected in the statistics, because they know – the way women do – that it holds an important element of truth that shouldn’t be ignored.

So do we need more female marketers? Yes, absolutely we do. They must be marketed to differently than men. And who better to understand the audience than someone who is part of it? The cardinal rule: really understand your audience. And when possible, BE your audience.

About the author
Sabine Clappaert is founder and Managing Director of Muse Communication, a marketing agency specialising in smart marketing to women.

Women Are More Successful Than Men When Trading In The Stock Market. Why?
Posted: Dec 07, 2010

The majority of trading markets are made up of men. This is easily understandable since market most times are thought like an emotion provider for all these men that are not used to live in a regulated society. But, it is the women who have a better chance at the stocks markets and numbers prove that. If a woman does go to the market, she probably is not searching for a roller coaster of emotions and risky tactics; she is probably worried about her money, just the way you should be.

It won’t sound common sense, but many traders go to the market searching for an escape route from their boring lives. No one can succeed like that. No one can succeed when they are already starting with the wrong foot. The stock market is not meant to please or to spice up your life; the stock market is made for investors and traders that are willing to profit from it. Emotionless. The more you bring from your life to the chair when going for trades, the more likely you won’t succeed in becoming a prosperous trader.

When aspiring on becoming a profitable trader, you must realize that you need a full life balance in order. Your mental awareness and state will directly affect your ability to trade. If you are constantly worrying about how you will pay your bills at the end of the month, these emotions will probably pass onto your trades without you even realizing it. That also happens to people who try to trade in the market for the sake of fun. This can’t and it won’t work.

That is why women succeed the most in the stock market: they don’t chase emotions on it. Women really invest, opposite to many men that are really proud on taking risks and making huge gambles. Becoming a lucrative investor is all about minimizing the risks as much as possible and developing a complete disregard for money when trading. You must act almost like a robot when facing that scary blinking screen; if you don’t, you probably won’t last long enough to tell the story.

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How Not To Get Caught Wearing A Bra At Work (And In Public)

By Hope Alexander

Believe it or not, some men want to wear a bra to work, (or anywhere in public, for that matter,) but don’t want to get caught doing it. Gadzooks! How are they to achieve such a goal. I have some tips for them, which I believe will help. I can only help they read this in time, before they go running out of the house in a red lace bra under a wet white t-shirt.

The tips below should help them in their endeavors, but please, if you are among this number, be aware that unless you are wearing a suit jacket, leather jacket, ski jacket or some kind of thick bulky overcoat, your brassiere may be detectable. If you’re wearing a bra and a t shirt and someone runs their hand over your back then yeah, they’ll probably feel the band.

But, for those of your coworkers who aren’t fondling your back all day and night, these tips may help. (There’s one that will foil those people too, its right at the end. Like the butler, who totally did it.)

Match Colors

If you don’t want your bra to be too obvious, match the color of the bra to the tone of your skin, and perhaps more importantly, to your shirt. That means no black brassieres under your white business shirt.

Plain Is Better

If your brassiere has a whole lotta lace and embroidery going on, the ripples and bumps can show through your shirt. Wear that plain beige brassiere on the days you just want to feel a bra against your skin.

Cover Up

Wear more than just a bra and a shirt. Wear a bra, a vest and a shirt, or preferably, a jersey that is somewhat thick. The more layers you have on, the less likely it is that you will get caught wearing your bra. This works best in winter, of course.

Get The Right Fit

A bra that fits properly is less likely to be seen than a bra which is cutting into your flesh. Avoid flesh bumps at all cost.

T Shirt Bras

T shirt bras were designed to be the original stealth bra. By wearing a white t shirt bra under, say a thick white vest, you should be virtually undetectable to 99% of the human population. (Except those bastards who keep lingeringly running your fingers over your upper back.)

And finally, for those SOB’s, the silver bullet…

Strap Up

Put your brassiere on, wrap some wide crepe tape around that puppy and go about your day. Don’t wind it too tight or you won’t be able to breathe, which could spoil your ability to enjoy your brassiere. If people touch you, they’ll feel the strapping. You can then claim some awesome sports / shark related injury.

That, I think, is all the advice I have for you today.